Hooponopono is simple, effective and easy to learn. This Hawaiian method will help you undo successfully unpleasant feelings such as resentment, hatred, anger or even inadequacy.
It will change the way you look at life and people. Just follow the instructions below and you are on your way to a happier Self.
The famous four phrases you can apply as a mantra easily to any aspects of your life. And the fifth phrase is the new addition which will speed up the process of undoing or atonement.
The Four Phrases of Hooponopono you can apply as a mantra easily to any aspects of your life.
I love you
Please, forgive me
To learn it, choose a particular person who irritates or hurts you and has been irritating or hurting you for while.
Think of one person, whom you don't like. Someone who makes you feel bad or who evokes feelings of pain within you. Just pick one person to start with. It may be a working colleague, a family member, a former friend or anybody else who crosses your mind at this moment.
Anybody is the right candidate. You most likely already have someone in mind. That is the right one.
Let us assume it is a working colleague. Before you are to meet her or him, even during the meeting, say the four phrases in your mind:
If you have difficulties remembering the phrases, write them down on small pieces of paper and stick them on to your laptop, computer screen, bathroom mirror, dashboard or anywhere else where your eyes will fall on during the day.
Say the name of the person before you say each of the phrases in your mind. Begin with the phrase which is easiest for you and leave the most difficult to the end. Let’s say it is John who appears to make your life a living hell. Say this:
John, I’m sorry
John, please forgive me
John, thank you
John, I love you
It does not matter, if you cannot actually believe what you are saying or if there is a lot of resistance. Just allow yourself to say the words anyway.
When you are alone say the phrases aloud. For example say the phrases aloud while looking into the mirror in the morning. Or say them aloud while driving, when you are just about to meet that most annoying working colleague for example.
Do that for a week and notice if there are any differences. Notice how it feels to say the phrases the first day. How is it mid week? What happens at the end of the week? Write it all down.
When you notice that there is less resistance, maybe after a couple of days or maybe at the end of that first week, you are ready for the next step.
Think about following:
What could you be sorry about involving John, the person in our example?
What could you ask him to forgive you for?
What could you thank him for?
Why could you love him?
And add another powerful aspect: What could you forgive him for?
Your answers could go something like this – these are just examples:
John, I am sorry for hating you so much.
John, please forgive me for hating you.
John, thank you for being in my life and making me aware of how much hate I carry around with me. And for making me aware that I do not want to carry it around with me anymore.
John, I love you (It is not necessary to add anything here, unless something comes to you spontaneously), because you are human being and for sure have some tender sides, too.
John, I forgive you for treating me as if I were your servant. You are probably not even aware of how I feel.
It is not necessary that you believe any of this. The only thing that matters is that you keep going and apply these phrases like a prayer or a mantra, if you will.
Slowly you will notice a difference. Your personal experience within you and your way of looking at the person you are applying these mantras to will bring about some kind of change.
Did the person begin talking differently to you?
Did your resentment diminish?
Did the person somehow as if by magic disappear out of your life?
Sometimes the change may occur within a day or two. Don’t stop. Work with that first issue – in our case it is John - for a whole week. It is the first time after all. Allow yourself to experiment with Hooponopono and learn the technique well.
Once you have become familiar with Hooponopono you may apply as long or short a period time as you choose. Play around with it. You can apply this method to any person, issue, thing or problem. You will gain experience and know what is right and what works well for you.
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